Can I Fail at Therapy?
- It’s important to not think of therapy as a test
- Your therapist is not a teacher that is grading you
- Or a parent ready to scold you.
- Rather, therapy can be viewed as more of a dance
- And you can have a bad dance partner
- And perhaps not click with a certain therapist
- But you can’t fail the relationship
- Culturally, the US has a pass/fail dynamic
- As a culture, we prefer perfection over the human experience.
- The way we talk about therapy is laden with cultural values
- So it’s unsurprising how often clients question their ability to do therapy “right.”
Am I a Bad Client?
- Rarely, a client may not have good intentions and not participate
- But, usually, this isn’t the case.
- A client may be a little clumsy at the beginning
- And it may take some time to learn the rhythm
- But they want to be there
- So no, you aren’t “bad.”
Discovering What Works for You
- You can’t fail at therapy,
- But a certain type of therapy may not be what’s needed at the time
- Though, in our opinions, therapy boils down to a healthy and safe relationship.
- And there’s never a time that’s inappropriate.
- Additionally, the original goal might not be what ends up being worked on
- However, be open to discovering what therapy can do for you
- Instead of being focused on a predefined goal to achieve
You Can’t Fail At Therapy
- Even though it might be awkward and unnatural at the beginning
- Be committed through the awkwardness
- And the coming back together
- Trusting that it will take you somewhere beautiful
- Remembering that its all part of the process
- In summary, it is possible for a therapist and client to not have the best dynamic
- It’s possible the therapy modality and goals aren’t the most effective at the time.
- But, therapy is a relationship.
- And relationships aren’t something you can fail at.
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Executive Directors: Jennifer and Ryan Savage, Melissa Bentinnedi, Bridger Falkenstein
Hosts: Jennifer Savage, Melissa Benintendi, and Bridger Falkenstein
Filmographer: Tyler Wassam
Podcast Editor: Jamie Eggert
Original Music Composers: Bridger Falkenstein and Caleb Boston
Show Notes: Jordan Murray & Jamie Eggert