Context, Choice, Connection - Ep. 30

Context

Context involves processing the stimuli in our environment, making sense of it, and understanding the effects and implications it has on us.
Its is necessary for our ability to feel safe in connection.
This is because it helps us feel more confident that the unfolding of the present moment will ensure our safety, that of others, and that we stay connected.
Additionally, it allows us to avoid threats and seek safety.
When people struggle with having little context, there can be a sense of panic or aloofness
We’re constantly searching our environment to understand the situation.
This gives us information needed to be able to respond.
Without context, we’re just going to react.
It helps our body feel safe and lowers our natural threat response.
From that place, we can make a choice that is not anxiety-driven

Melissa’s explanation of lack of context as an abuse tactic (9:49)
Melissa gives context to allow her daughter to choose clothes (11:05).
Bridger’s explanation of using context as an invitation in therapy (12:22).
The importance of learning to make decisions from a calm and safety-oriented place (16:28).
Melissa’s example of her daughter’s first dentist appointment (21:59).

First, when we have all the context we can have about what’s going on,
Then, we can choose how we want it to go or what direction we want to go.
Finally, from this place, we can be connected on the choice of the path we choose.

“With awarness comes choice and context is one of the ways we can immediately offer an invitation into awareness of what is really going on” (13:54).