• Context involves processing the stimuli in our environment, making sense of it, and understanding the effects and implications it has on us.
  • Its is necessary for our ability to feel safe in connection.
  • This is because it helps us feel more confident that the unfolding of the present moment will ensure our safety, that of others, and that we stay connected.
  • Additionally, it allows us to avoid threats and seek safety.
  • When people struggle with having little context, there can be a sense of panic or aloofness
  • We’re constantly searching our environment to understand the situation.
  • This gives us information needed to be able to respond.
  • Without context, we’re just going to react.
  • It helps our body feel safe and lowers our natural threat response.
  • From that place, we can make a choice that is not anxiety-driven


  • Melissa’s explanation of lack of context as an abuse tactic (9:49) 
  • Melissa gives context to allow her daughter to choose clothes (11:05). 
  • Bridger’s explanation of using context as an invitation in therapy (12:22).
  • The importance of learning to make decisions from a calm and safety-oriented place (16:28).
  • Melissa’s example of her daughter’s first dentist appointment (21:59).

Summary of Context, Choice, and Connection

  • First, when we have all the context we can have about what’s going on, 
  • Then, we can choose how we want it to go or what direction we want to go.
  • Finally, from this place, we can be connected on the choice of the path we choose.

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“With awarness comes choice and context is one of the ways we can immediately offer an invitation into awareness of what is really going on” (13:54).

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